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I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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it’s actually way too common where painters almost drink their paint water

Or actually full out drink it

Or rinse the brush in your drink

Or both

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burned my hand curling my hair today

worth it

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The story we have been a part of will live long in the minds of men.

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Banana Oat Pancakes with Blueberries and Walnuts for brunch!


Sailor Moon Meme: [6/8] Episodes
124, “The Horror of the Approaching Shadow! Eight Soldiers in Tough Battle”

To enter by stopping time… Nothing less from the soldiers of the outer rim of the solar system.
-Mistress 9

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Goshdarnitall Kubie!

Rules: when you get this, give 5 facts about yourself then pass it on to 10 of your followers.

The First

1. It took me three tries to pass my drivers test and only after my grandfather taught me.

2. I would rather be too cold then too hot. Layers, hoodies, and blankets FTW!

3. I love to cook and bake for people but have a really hard time deligating tasks or sharing a kitchen during prep. I can be a bit of a perfectionist I guess? Whoops

4. I love to sing along with music while driving.

5. I used to HATE chunky tomatoes sauce, but now think it’s da bomb.

The Second

Name: Alyssa

Nickname: Lys

Gender: Female

Sexuality: Bi

Height: 5’2”

Timezone: EST

What time and date is it there: August 28, 2014 @ 8:34pm

Average hours of sleep: between 7 and 10 depending on my work schedule


The last thing I Googled: Movies [my postal code]

First word that comes to mind: Weekend

What I last said to a family member: Call or text me when the power’s back, kay? Love ya!

One place that makes me happy and why: My grandparents house. So many great memories and I know where everything is ;)

How many blankets do I sleep under: 1 over just my tummy when it’s hot out, and then All Of Them in the winter because our apartment is drafty as fuck.

Favorite beverage: Pomegranate Cranberry Juice

The last movie I watched at a cinema: Guardians of the Galaxy

Three things I can’t live without: Music, Friends/Family, Indoor Plumming

Something I plan on learning: More cake decorating techniques!

A piece of advice for all my followers: You can’t please everyone, so be mindful of what you internalize.

You have to listen to this song: The Mummer’s Dance by Loreena McKennitt

Tagged: Everyone following me!


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Always reblog Easy A.

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Today is my birthday so I just ate waaaay too much Thai food, will showah, and then noodle around online whilst watching the Avengers.

Yes good

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i have the body of a siren and the sea is so loathe to be parted from me that it left imprints of its waves on my thighs

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Dear Just About Everybody I Know…

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